I am so sick & tired of rap music, every time I turn on the radio there is some stupid song on about independent women. Now, my issue isn't with independent women, I consider myself one, in fact. However, these songs are all about trying to convince young women that they shouldn't expect a man to do or provide anything for them. REALLY? REALLY? Second verse, I love a woman that can provide her own and doesn't need me to. REALLY? Third verse, I love a woman who knows how to please her man and doesn't hesitate to go down. (In my Little John Voice: WHAT!!??!?!)
What kind of malarkey is this about? Seriously? I want to know. When did it stop being a man's job to provide for his woman? Aren't they the traditional providers? Anyone that's been married and filed joint taxes... will attest to the fact EVEN if a woman makes more than her husband his names goes first. Because he's supposed to be making the dough and bringing home the bacon - a traditional head of household.
Now, I'm not saying that a woman should expect that every guy she's dating she be putting fistfuls of cash in her hand if she spreads her legs. There is a difference between prostitution and maintenance. If you expect your chick to pick up the phone when you call, rearrange her schedule to see you, console you after a long day, support you in your (whatever activity) AND give you a lil sugar on top-- that's YOUR woman and it then becomes your responsibility to keep her in the way in which you'd like to see her.
So don't start whining about how you want a woman that is intelligent, has a good job, can cook, keeps house, gets her hair & nails done, looks like she stepped off a runway, and still has time to go get waxed cause she knows you like a landing strip -- you better be helping maintain all of that ish.
Real independent women understand what personal responsibility means and owns up to it. They do not allow any personal relationship to determine their level of self-confidence or ability to provide stability in HER life. The rest of you ladies out there who are letting dudes convince you that since you make good money, and it's not like "ya'll getting married" they don't have to do anything for you --- you my friends are just giving the milk away... and as gran said, "who is going to buy a cow when they can get the milk for free".
So if you are out there dating and all you are getting is dinner and sex... Maybe it's time to reevaluate that. Cause sweetheart you can afford to buy your own dinner and sexual partners are a dime a dozen.
I think with the sexual revolution, men fell under the impression that women are not women, we are now what they would consider a variation of what that place they would like to mentally put us. I am an independent woman and I make money and I can not only bring home the bacon, I can cook it as well. But, does that mean I do not want a man that can and is willing to take care of me. I want HIM!!!
ReplyDeleteMen are still men and should continue to play their roll as such. Take care of me Damnit! what am I a prostitute because not only do I expect my "Man" to do for me, but I also demand it. If a man claims a woman and walks down the street calling her his woman, and expects her to rub his back at night and give him her love & affection, then why is it when it comes back down to the basics of taking care of that woman and holding himself responsible for that woman, all of a sudden she is a whore.
As whore is a woman that you eff and leave no emotional involvement. How about this, why don’t you call up your local prostitute and ask her to make you something to eat Sunday and see what she tells you. Or why don’t you call her and say hey can you grab me a new shirt from the department store for our outing this evening.
Men what is it do you not appreciate what you have that you have to consider buying “Your Woman” a Gucci bag all of a sudden she is comparable to a hooker on the stroll. Help me out people, a good woman is worth diamonds and pearls and a thank you from god for sending her. Be responsible for that woman as you would want her to be responsible for you. Landing strip and allllllll!
"How about this, why don’t you call up your local prostitute and ask her to make you something to eat Sunday and see what she tells you. Or why don’t you call her and say hey can you grab me a new shirt from the department store for our outing this evening.
ReplyDeleteMen what is it do you not appreciate what you have that you have to consider buying “Your Woman” a Gucci bag all of a sudden she is comparable to a hooker on the stroll. Help me out people, a good woman is worth diamonds and pearls and a thank you from god for sending her. Be responsible for that woman as you would want her to be responsible for you. Landing strip and allllllll! "
You couldn't have said it any clearer! I don't know why we are getting further and further from this concept - and closer to "if I spend a nickel on her then she's a pro or a gold-digger".